Beauty and sex appeal are more than skin deep.
Relationship and psychosexual psychotherapist Clare Faulkner revealed the six ways you can ooze sexiness — and it’s about more than just appearance.
Confidence is key
“Confidence is undeniably attractive. When you exude self-assurance and you feel comfortable in your skin, others are naturally drawn to you,” Faulkner told the Daily Mail.
“Developing confidence is about knowing your worth, your strengths and learning to be unapologetically yourself.”
She suggests developing a unique sense of style to help you feel confident and sexy.
Harness your energy and be engaging
Along with being confident, “the energy you project is important,” Faulkner noted.
“It’s about being engaging, being genuinely interested in the other person, and really listening,” she told the Daily Mail.
When you make others feel important, “people feel a frisson and they don’t want to leave your orbit.”
Use body language
A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that nonverbal cues are more effective than verbal communication during sex — but the importance of body language goes beyond the bedroom.
“Use gestures and facial expressions to convey warmth and interest. This also ensures that confidence doesn’t tip into arrogance,” Faulkner advised.
“If you’re fidgety, nervous, or distracted, your focus is inward. By contrast, people who have ‘presence’ seem comfortable and at ease with themselves. Because they’re not self-conscious, they’re able to give others their full attention — to really notice what’s going on — which is very beguiling.”
Stay calm
A way to hone your body language and energy is to remain calm, cool and collected.
“When we feel balanced and unstressed, we’re more available to engage with other people,” Faulkner said.
She suggests practicing mindfulness — which is also one of the most important steps to achieve your best orgasm — to remain in the moment.
“We’re all so busy, always focused on work or ‘life admin’ — it makes it harder to connect with people. We need to soften more, be intuitive and slow down. So try to remain in the moment,” the expert said.
Connect with your senses
A good way to practice mindfulness and exude sexiness is to connect with your body and your senses.
“Putting sexual pleasure aside for a moment, there’s something very seductive in a person who revels in simply being alive and using their senses,” Faulkner noted.
The expert advised that people should “connect to your sensory world, whether it’s savoring the feel of the air on our skin, the smells of spring, or the taste of delicious food.
“Eroticism is not something that just happens between the sheets,” Faulker said. “When we’re connected to our senses, it radiates out.”
Be yourself
But at the end of the day, the sexiest thing a person can do is be themselves.
“Being genuine plays a significant role in sex appeal. So embrace your own unique quirks and interests, foster a sense of purpose and let your real personality shine through,” Faulkner said.
“Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Being passionate about what matters to you is captivating.”
